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When Grief Comes in Strong

When you have those hard days, it's okay to feel that way. You don't have to be strong all the time. No matter how long it has been since your child died, it is okay to cry, get angry, or feel like you've lost your best friend. That's what grief is for— to help us process our terrible and traumatic loss. It's not something we can avoid forever, but it is something that we will learn to carry and will, eventually, make room for a new chapter in your story.

Grief is a part of life and a part of love, but it doesn't have to take over your life. If you are feeling alone or lonely, reach out to someone close to you who will listen and care about what you have to say.

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How to survive those "hard" days after child loss.

I've written about my experience with the death of my son. I know that I'm not alone and that others have had similar experiences, but it's still difficult to find ways to cope with the loss. Recently, as part of my healing process, I've been learning more about grief and understanding what goes on in my mind on the hard days so I can move forward after my loss. I am learning about the many stages of grief you might go through after losing someone close to you, including denial and anger. However, there is hope for healing if you're willing to take time for yourself as well as reach out for professional help when needed.

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What is the hardest stage of grief

The five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

It's important to note that the stages of grief are not linear and can occur in any order. Additionally, people often go through each stage more than once, and may reoccur at different times in their lives.

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Why we Struggle to Change After Child Loss

We all want to feel like we are in control of our lives. We have dreams, goals, and plans that we work towards, and then there is life itself. Life has a way of knocking us off track when we least expect it, and often the hardest challenge is how to get back on track after something traumatic happens. When someone close to you dies or leaves, there can be many emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, blame, and confusion about why it happened or who was at fault. These emotions make us feel stuck in our grief because we keep going over what happened instead of moving forward with our lives.

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What grieving does to your body?

It's hard to believe that a person can go through so much pain and still keep on living. But that's what grief does to you: it makes you stronger, even if only in small ways. Grief hurts your body as well as your mind, though. If you're going through something similar, here are some common side effects of grief on the body:

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Worst things to say to someone grieving.

Grief is a complicated, often confusing emotion. It can take over your life and make you feel like yourself in ways that are both heartbreaking and beautiful. It's normal to mourn the passing of someone you love—but it's also normal for people who aren't grieving themselves to be confused about what to say or do around those who are. Here are some things not to say if you're trying not to upset someone whose loved ones have passed away:

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Love Endures Forever

"Love endures forever."

This beautiful quote is carved on the wall of a chapel at the National Shrine of Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton in Emmitsburg, Maryland. Elizabeth Ann Bayley Seton was an American saint and the first native-born citizen of the United States to be canonized by the Roman Catholic Church. She was also a wife and mother who was once widowed with five surviving children. One of those surviving children, Anna Maria, died soon after her mother's death. Before her own untimely death, Anna Maria had written to her sister: "We are but travelers here; let us help each other on our journey."

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